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  • The gift of free time

    by Liza Davis
    This week was shaping up to be a pretty standard week of work (paid) and keeping the family and house running (unpaid) but on Tuesday at 11.30am th...
    Posted in find your calm, free time, reading, self care

  • Toxic bosses, my experience working for a narcissist

    by Liza Davis

    This has been an extremely popular blog post. Thank you to all readers and at the same time it says there is a lot more that needs to be done to make workplaces safer and healthier. The scenarios are from my past work experience spanning 25 + years.

    Every Sunday I dreaded going to work and I couldn’t quite put my finger on why. Work made me feel tired, frustrated and depressed. I know we can feel this way for any number of reasons however it can also be caused by a difficult – read toxic – work environment.

    Posted in boundaries, narcissist, self care, toxic boss, toxic workplace

  • I've got nothing ...

    by Liza Davis
    I have a confession ... that for someone who publicly walks the talk of self care, I just haven't been very good at it this lockdown.
    Posted in checking in, covid, exercise, find your calm, lockdown, self care, uncertainty

  • I'm so tired of 'kicking my own arse'

    by Liza Davis
    I know that everyone is going through their own things at the moment and thought it worth sharing my little internal meltdown with you. It's a reminder that whatever we are going through we need to be kind to ourselves, and hit those 'kicking our own arse' thoughts on the head.
    Posted in body positive, covid, exercise, glennon doyle, seasonal affective disorder, self care, tired, uncertainty

  • OMG ... what is wrong with people?!?!

    by Liza Davis

    We come across people we find annoying in all areas of our life. That friend who we know is always late and just 'inconsiderate' (not you Tara O); the work colleague who can't quite get things right and we think is 'hopeless'; that couple who always disappear when it comes time to pay the bill who are just 'so tight'.

    According to Brene Brown if we assume that on any day people are generally just trying to do the best they can, and then apply empathy and generosity to people's actions we move can move from thinking of their actions in terms of what we think and feel they should be doing, and try to understand who they are and where they are at.

    Posted in brene brown, communication, difficult people, empathy, find your calm, leadership

  • Highs and lows, ups and downs, and everything in between

    by Liza Davis

    Do you ever feel the storm clouds gathering? When the 'Negative Nellie' version of yourself starts taking over from the generally positive, everyday you.

    That was me last Friday.

    Posted in Alcohol, digital detox, emotions, find your calm, highs and lows, mood swings, self care, sleep

  • You can imagine you are a nice person, until you have kids

    by Liza Davis
    Right now, right this moment I am absolutely sick of the sound of my own voice. "Pick up your clothes", "make your bed", "will someone, any child born from my body, puh-lease empty the dishwasher", "don't swear at your brother/sister", "can you at least be kind to each other".
    Posted in emotions, find your calm, parenting, self care, stress, teens, tweens, wellbing

  • What I learned from a tree change

    by Liza Davis

    In 2012 we moved our family from the inner west in Sydney to a small village in the Southern Tablelands of NSW, around 35 minutes from the Australian Capital Territory.

    It was a village with a school, church, and pub, what I considered essential to community.

    What did I learn?

    Posted in relaxation, rural life, self care, stress, tree change

  • Creating a ‘zen’ workspace

    by Liza Davis
    Working from home is likely to be part of our lives into the future. Making sure you have a workspace that provides peace, calm and allows you to focus on what you need to get done is important.
    Posted in find your calm, self care, working from home

  • No shame

    by Liza Davis
    Shame lives in the shadows of everyday life, and most of us have experienced shame at some point. It’s that feeling that something is wrong with you. Feeling shame is often a response to stories we have told ourselves, that others have told to us, or stories from our community and culture. We experience shame when our reality doesn't match these stories. But there is a way to develop shame resilience.
    Posted in guilt, mental health, resilience, self care, shame, shame triggers, wellbing

  • Don't be 'small'

    by Liza Davis

    Content warning: the following blog contains shrill and bossy statements :-)

    I've been feeling a little bit frustrated. There has been all this amazing public commentary in support of being and raising, strong, confident women. Girl power, yeah! That we should love ourselves unconditionally, not be afraid to speak out or stand up for what we believe in. Yet along side this amazing feminist pep talk it feels like there is a stronger one telling us that we should be 'small'.

    Posted in body positive, eating disorders, feminism, self care, sexism

  • Feel what you need to feel

    by Liza Davis
    We have been sold a lie, that our aim in life is to be happy! But a happy life is not necessarily living your best life ...
    Posted in emotions, feelings, happiness, meditation, selfcare